Rejection == confidence.
Oct. 26th, 2001 01:34 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
unbibiumThis week, at the club, I ran into a woman that I'd danced with a few times and wanted to get to know better. It's hard to get her alone in the club, though, since she's gotten many friends. When I first met her, it was something like August, and she'd just moved to town, and the longer I waited, the slimmer my chances became.
So I decided not to let myself hesitate any longer and asked for a phone number. I was, like, "Excuse me, could I have your phone number? I... I... I..." and I was just trying to come up with a sentence that didn't end with "I just didn't want to wait any longer" or "I think I'd be better off talking where there's no music and I don't have to compete for your attention" or something pathetic like that.
She declined with "My boyfriend would have a big problem with that..." and she started laughing.
But, then suddenly I snapped to, saying "well, you don't have to laugh that hard. That's why I ask, instead of just reading your mind." Totally took it in stride.
Maybe it helps that I become totally witty after being rejected, that it sort of makes up for the rejection itself. Maybe I should get rejected more often, then I'll be smooooth.
Of course, now a "yes" worries me more than a "no".
So I decided not to let myself hesitate any longer and asked for a phone number. I was, like, "Excuse me, could I have your phone number? I... I... I..." and I was just trying to come up with a sentence that didn't end with "I just didn't want to wait any longer" or "I think I'd be better off talking where there's no music and I don't have to compete for your attention" or something pathetic like that.
She declined with "My boyfriend would have a big problem with that..." and she started laughing.
But, then suddenly I snapped to, saying "well, you don't have to laugh that hard. That's why I ask, instead of just reading your mind." Totally took it in stride.
Maybe it helps that I become totally witty after being rejected, that it sort of makes up for the rejection itself. Maybe I should get rejected more often, then I'll be smooooth.
Of course, now a "yes" worries me more than a "no".
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Date: 2001-10-26 04:17 pm (UTC)Of course, chances are also pretty good that he's just as nerdish as I. Swing dancing seems to attract nerdy guys for some reason.