Another Lonely Guy Moment.

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A woman I liked just confessed to me that she slept with a guy, whom she is now avoiding because he is the biggest jerk ever.

I'm angry, as a typical lonely guy would be upon hearing this.

And I feel bad about being angry, not just because it's a cliche, but because she's dealikng with some pretty harsh consequences as a result of her actions. It's not a time to be thinking about my own selfish needs.

I considered that I might feel different if it were a guy telling me about some psycho girl. But, the root cause of the anger is pretty much the same: sociopaths get laid constantly. The difference is I'm not also thinking "THAT LOSER, BUT NOT ME?!" the whole time.

If she'd picked a winner, I'd probably have been happy for her. Then the voice would be saying "hey, she was holding out for something good," and the universe would make sense.

Do women get this riled up when men tell them about women they wish they hadn't slept with?

Comments

[pootrootbeer.livejournal.com]

Keep in mind, the woman in this scenario isn't attracted to the guy BECAUSE he is a sociopath. Rather, once it becomes apparent to her just what a creep he actually is, she gets as far away from him as possible and complains about him. So there has to be something else about him that attracted her in the first place.

I'm not so sure

[vardissakheli.livejournal.com]

I've seen plenty of "serial victims" do this repeatedly. And then a Lonely Guy helps them out of the pattern--and then they go off and find a nice boyfriend somewhere else.

The times that it was my turn, I was happy to play the Helpful Lonely Guy, and it wasn't with a woman I was attracted to, so no conflicting emotions, everybody wins. Of course, in that regard it helps that there have been so few women I've ever been attracted to.

Re: I'm not so sure

[pentomino.livejournal.com]

Well, this one was someone I never pictured as a "serial victim". In fact, she said when she met me that she had "the sex drive of an amoeba", though that could easily have been to spare my feelings. She's been a long-distance friend of mine for about a year since then, and she'd never used me as a therapist in all that time. She has invited me to stay at her place, and shown me around New York, introduced me proudly to all of her friends, and has always treated me with great consideration. She's the kind of person who's too smart to fall for the cheap tricks of a sociopath, or so I thought.

So, either I've overestimated her strength, or this guy is one soulless monster.

[pootrootbeer.livejournal.com]

Even strong people have weak moments.

[ronebofh.livejournal.com]

GARRRR HULK NEEDS A HUG