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The worst that could happen is not that she could say "no". Indeed, the worst that could happen isn't even that people you had cared about for the last eight years have decided you're a creep and wish you'd go away forever. It's entirely conceivable that one day I will take too large a chance, even with only my words or my eyes, and she could enlist the rest of society to end my freedom, or even my life.

So I suppose it's a good thing that, over the last six months, I have not become infatuated with any new women.

With luck, I have finally starved out my libido, and may finally be safe.

Comments

[mmcirvin.livejournal.com]

Have you been reading the Men's Rights sites? Those guys are nuts.

Seriously, think about it for a moment. Even egregiously stalkery behavior is notoriously hard to get someone put away for unless there's actual assault involved--the strongest thing that usually happens is a court order, which can be hard to enforce even when the guy is a manifest physical menace. Long-term harassing dickery in the workplace could get you fired, but there's generally an ascending scale of warnings that happens first.

You have more to worry about legally from mouthing off to a customs agent (cf. Peter Watts). As for taking chances with your words or eyes, the fact that you're not a black guy in the South in 1940 rather reduces the risk from Society.

[pentomino.livejournal.com]

I think it may be more that for those eight years, a large chunk of my social life was around weak men and strong women, and I was strongly encouraged to just keep my head down, and discouraged from any ambitions of asking someone out.

This is why I wish I had been able to spend more time with my other friends, who were much less dysfunctional.

[darquis.livejournal.com]

I think there's a certain level of dysfunction where spending time with less dysfunctional people is counterproductive - all sides will be uncomfortable and unhappy with both the time spent together and the results. I'm not sure if you're at that level, but it's something I've started noticing in my own life when I gradually became the less dysfunctional party. [ohgoodgods that's a SCARY thought. But I'm telling myself my circle of acquaintances is even crazier, on the average.]

[mmcirvin.livejournal.com]

Anyway, it may be that your libido isn't starved out at all, you're just not doing the infatuation thing any more. In which case things may get a lot easier for you in the future. I recommend spending some time not worrying about it too much.

[tamtrible.livejournal.com]

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