REVISED POLL

[unbibium]

OK, I meant to get rid of that "Negotiate on a case-by-case basis" because I knew that would be a cop-out, and certainly if someone decides to state their terms, that can take precedence over habit.

But, suppose it doesn't come up in conversation. Certainly you won't ask whether you're allowed to see anyone else after the first date, at the very least. I'm trying to get a feel for what you think the social norm is, in your own social circles.

Don't be shy; results are viewable only to me; your girlfriend or wife won't find out if you saw someone else between your first and second dates.

[Poll #1025209]

Comments

[kerri9494.livejournal.com]

I never assume that I'm not 'allowed' to see other people. After turning 18, no one could tell me what I was 'allowed' to do. I'd stop seeing other people when I felt ready...when I wanted to stop seeing other people. If I still wanted to see someone else, then I guess I wasn't ready to stop seeing other people. Right? If, after the first date, I had no desire to see anyone else, then I wouldn't bother.

Without discussing with my partner what the consequenses of my actions would be, there's no way to know how the other person would react. But no one is going to allow me to do or prohibit me from doing anything. Everyone just has to be willing to deal with the consequences.