REVISED POLL

[unbibium]

OK, I meant to get rid of that "Negotiate on a case-by-case basis" because I knew that would be a cop-out, and certainly if someone decides to state their terms, that can take precedence over habit.

But, suppose it doesn't come up in conversation. Certainly you won't ask whether you're allowed to see anyone else after the first date, at the very least. I'm trying to get a feel for what you think the social norm is, in your own social circles.

Don't be shy; results are viewable only to me; your girlfriend or wife won't find out if you saw someone else between your first and second dates.

[Poll #1025209]

Comments

[vyus.livejournal.com]

after umpteen years of dating and fucking up at it, i've come to the conclusion that there should never be an assumption. it should always be explicit.

even the gf/bf used freely doesn't count, because some gals will start using it after the 1st date. that's a high road to disappointment.

i picked "engagement" cos hopefully two people have had the balls to talk explicitly by then.

but really, we're all adults (mostly). even after engagement, nothing's wrong with a threesome.