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Jan. 2nd, 2006 05:22 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
unbibiumA recent article claimed that if you don't have a handful of people who can essentially come to your house unannounced, then you don't really have friends. I can't find the article, even though I'm sure it was floating around the blogsphere a few days ago.
I remember another article, however, that explained that part of the allure of sitcoms like "Friends" was that friends drop in unannounced, and most adults don't experience that anymore. It referred to this happening in college dorms, but since I've never lived in one, I haven't had anyone drop in since grade school.
There's been an exception or two in college, mostly![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
w_b_yeats stopping by to let me know he's going to a thrift store or something. One time he and lautreamontg came over around 2am, and that caused me to clench my boundaries a little.
And there have been a few times that, as an adult, I've been in someone else's neighborhood. I'd call someone's home from my cell phone and ask if it was OK to drop by, and it usually isn't.
Consequently, my social life has been at its most active when I've had lots of recurring appointments. THEM meetings, swing dancing, language clubs, and most recently, pasty night. If I want to meet with friends, it seems easiest to try and make recurring weekly arrangements, or at least couch it in that format. I managed to get a few good weeks in a row hiking South Mountain withmiwasatoshi last year that way.
How do you usually get together with friends? Do you rely on weekly engagements, or can you be hanging out with friends at a moment's notice?
I remember another article, however, that explained that part of the allure of sitcoms like "Friends" was that friends drop in unannounced, and most adults don't experience that anymore. It referred to this happening in college dorms, but since I've never lived in one, I haven't had anyone drop in since grade school.
There's been an exception or two in college, mostly
w_b_yeats stopping by to let me know he's going to a thrift store or something. One time he and lautreamontg came over around 2am, and that caused me to clench my boundaries a little.And there have been a few times that, as an adult, I've been in someone else's neighborhood. I'd call someone's home from my cell phone and ask if it was OK to drop by, and it usually isn't.
Consequently, my social life has been at its most active when I've had lots of recurring appointments. THEM meetings, swing dancing, language clubs, and most recently, pasty night. If I want to meet with friends, it seems easiest to try and make recurring weekly arrangements, or at least couch it in that format. I managed to get a few good weeks in a row hiking South Mountain with
miwasatoshi last year that way.How do you usually get together with friends? Do you rely on weekly engagements, or can you be hanging out with friends at a moment's notice?
