after umpteen years of dating and fucking up at it, i've come to the conclusion that there should never be an assumption. it should always be explicit.

even the gf/bf used freely doesn't count, because some gals will start using it after the 1st date. that's a high road to disappointment.

i picked "engagement" cos hopefully two people have had the balls to talk explicitly by then.

but really, we're all adults (mostly). even after engagement, nothing's wrong with a threesome.